You start chatting with a cute guy, and you think you're hitting it off, when just like that, he walks away. Um, what?! What did I do? What happened? Here are a few tips to keep him interested during those critical first few minutes to increase your odds of scoring a date, seven magnificent ways to get Mr. Right to ask you out—from a Top Life Coach in the Business — 'Doc' Richard Easton.
1. Make Real Eye Contact
Many women turn away when they like a guy, avoiding eye contact at all costs. Big mistake! Whether you’re checking out a guy from across the room, or you just started talking with one, make sure you look into his eyes. Locking eyes will signal your'e interested. A little smile will help too. Remember, some of the best men are shy. Let him know you like him.
2. Boobs Away
Men love short skirts and spaghetti strap dresses. Most men love legs in all lengths. A fresh pedi in strappy sandals does it for us too. Just be mindful of that plunging neckline. A good rule of thumb is the bigger your boobs, the less you want them pushed up or hanging out, otherwise you could send the wrong message to the wrong kind of guy (ahem, players.) That’s not to say you have to cover up like a nun, just think tastefully. Mr. Right will approach you if you look sexy, not trashy.
3. ‘Wit-l’ Your Way In
A recurring request from my friends and colleagues is: “Please introduce me to a pretty, witty girl.” Quick wit showcases your sense of humor and intelligence, two qualities that men look for in long-term relationships just like you do. Keep in mind that being witty isn’t the same as cracking joke after joke. Subtlety is key. Light-hearted sarcasm is great fun too. Practice makes perfect.
4. Don’t Look Miserable in Public
Take a look around. Notice the happy people? How about the unhappy ones? Yep. It's easy. If you’re out in public, no matter where or when, put on your happy face, or you won’t attract anyone. Copious amounts of negativity shows. The guy across the room can see it, everyone can, even the guy you haven't noticed yet. Men want to meet happy women not unhappy ones. If you're asking yourself often, why doesn't a guy like that ever ask me out, then you may have your answer.
5. Body Language Counts Too
So, he thinks you are totally hot, but you’re intimidating him with your body language. If you cross your arms, then you may as well wear a banner: “Not Interested.” Men are receptive to women who are open to meeting people. He’ll approach you because he likes the way you laugh with your friends and feel comfortable, not arrogant, in your own skin. If you’re sitting, cross your legs in his direction with your free foot facing toward him. That says come over. The opposite direction says stay away.
6. Confidence is Key
When you’re comfortable with yourself, it shows. Wherever you go, carry yourself proudly and with good posture. Keep your eyes at eye level and look around, taking in all that’s beautiful in your great city. If you see something you like, smile. When you shake hands with a new acquaintance, grip their hand firmly and make eye contact. If you have an air of confidence with the posture and mannerisms to back it up, you will absolutely intrigue and captivate the men around you.
7. Carpe Diem
It's a brave new world. If you have great radar for quality men, and the one you noticed isn't making a move, walk over and introduce yourself. Men love being approached and asked out just as much as you do. It’s so flattering! If you like the guy, go for it! The worst thing he can say is no, in which case you didn't waste anymore time wishing he'd walk over. On the other hand, he may say “I’d love to!"
Above all, have fun. Being your happy, delightful self is the goal, not a date. The positive energy and sexy signals you send into the universe will surely attract others, then before you know it, your dance card will be full. Good luck Ladies.
Love, Richard Easton
Richard Easton: www.richardeaston.com
I recently asked a group of attractive single women for their biggest complaints in dating. It seems we men make such blunders as fail to open the door for her, help her off and on with her coat, pull out her chair at the dinner table, wait to sit until she does, tend to her wine glass, stand when she visits the powder room, hail her a taxi and pay for it, that is, if we cannot deliver her home and make certain she makes it safely inside before we blaze off into the moonlight.
Women want us to be decisive. It is polite to ask her what she would like to do, but if she says whatever you want, then take charge. Few gestures will impress her more than a well-planned evening, and "you had better pay for it Mister or don’t ask me out in the first place." Don’t cancel either: "If he cannot organize his schedule, forget it; I don’t care if he was called into a meeting with The President!"
We don’t walk on the outside of the sidewalk near street-side either, and we don’t lead her through a crowded bar or theater, Busted! - and if we do help her on with her coat, we forget to pull her long hair out, Ooooops! We drink too much on a first date, and then grope her thinking she’s as tipsy as we are. She isn’t, of course, so she assumes we're all horny alcoholics. Well, when she's right, she's right. Ha!
Now if you want to make a truly great impression, wear a sports jacket, "It's so avant garde," and make certain your shoes are clean and polished, "We women check out men's shoes." Be nice to the driver, waiter, coat check girl, homeless guy, everybody. Turn off your phone and leave it in your jacket. Tip well—she’s watching to see if you are generous. Find things about her to compliment but be sincere and don’t overdo it. Pick her up or at least offer. Deliver her home, and get this, kiss her before you reach the doorman or that Rhett Butler tonsillectomy will turn into a peck on the cheek.
Talk about your hobbies but never about your mother, Oedipus! Listen to what she is saying to create a dialogue not a monologue. Don’t tell her she is your soulmate on a first date: "It’s creepy." But if you like her, tell her, and don’t wait three days to call. Flowers are always good, but too many candles in your apartment is taboo: "We know you want to sleep with us but a lot of candles screams playboy."
And the number one way to her heart — make her laugh. Good luck gentlemen.
Richard Easton is the top matchmaker in the country according to ABC News RichardEaston.com