I recently asked a group of attractive single women for their biggest complaints in dating. It seems we men make such blunders as fail to open the door for her, help her off and on with her coat, pull out her chair at the dinner table, wait to sit until she does, tend to her wine glass, stand when she visits the powder room, hail her a taxi and pay for it, that is, if we cannot deliver her home and make certain she makes it safely inside before we blaze off into the moonlight.
Women want us to be decisive. It is polite to ask her what she would like to do, but if she says whatever you want, then take charge. Few gestures will impress her more than a well-planned evening, and "you had better pay for it Mister or don’t ask me out in the first place." Don’t cancel either: "If he cannot organize his schedule, forget it; I don’t care if he was called into a meeting with The President!"
We don’t walk on the outside of the sidewalk near street-side either, and we don’t lead her through a crowded bar or theater, Busted! - and if we do help her on with her coat, we forget to pull her long hair out, Ooooops! We drink too much on a first date, and then grope her thinking she’s as tipsy as we are. She isn’t, of course, so she assumes we're all horny alcoholics. Well, when she's right, she's right. Ha!
Now if you want to make a truly great impression, wear a sports jacket, "It's so avant garde," and make certain your shoes are clean and polished, "We women check out men's shoes." Be nice to the driver, waiter, coat check girl, homeless guy, everybody. Turn off your phone and leave it in your jacket. Tip well—she’s watching to see if you are generous. Find things about her to compliment but be sincere and don’t overdo it. Pick her up or at least offer. Deliver her home, and get this, kiss her before you reach the doorman or that Rhett Butler tonsillectomy will turn into a peck on the cheek.
Talk about your hobbies but never about your mother, Oedipus! Listen to what she is saying to create a dialogue not a monologue. Don’t tell her she is your soulmate on a first date: "It’s creepy." But if you like her, tell her, and don’t wait three days to call. Flowers are always good, but too many candles in your apartment is taboo: "We know you want to sleep with us but a lot of candles screams playboy."
And the number one way to her heart — make her laugh. Good luck gentlemen.
Richard Easton is the top matchmaker in the country according to ABC News RichardEaston.com